Day 241: Learning to not react when I am treated differently

Nobody likes to be the black sheep in the herd, and we have all been in situations in our life where we have been treated differently to others in and felt offended because of it.

Why might you be treated differently in a situation? Well maybe your views and principles are not shared by those in the situation, or maybe someone in your family is not liked and so you are being treated differently by someone for that.

 Or maybe it could be something as trivial as the sports team you like is not liked by the others in the group and so you are being ignored, not embraced but are rather pushed to the edges of the situation.

This happened to me recently whereby some people I work with were providing money to a charity that I am not willing to provide my own finance towards, they were all rewarded with a "dress down" day, the afternoon off work and an evening party.

I was not singled out for persecution or anything and I was also allowed the afternoon off, though not

the dressing down of course lol. But you notice the strange looks as I am the only person in the office still in a suit, the silence, the whispers etc.

I was reacting to all those factors in this moment, inside my mind I was laughing to myself, disappointed by the petty nature of this behaviour, wondering if they are trying to single me out.  

Yet I have found that the best solution for this is to first pull myself out of my mind through self corrective application of breathing, where I touch what is here, where I stay calm about the purposeful attempt to single and isolate me out of the situation.

Then secondly I find that focusing, sticking to my tasks and integrating into my work with those work colleagues, not being distracted by any of their behaviour. Its like breezing through a brick wall that is placed before me, laughing with their laughs, supporting them in completing mine and their projects etc.

This helps to mitigate their different treatment of me regarding these points, and assists me to remain stable as the physical here and stay out of my mind - Its amazing in life how anyone who dislikes you for whatever reason, will reduce their dislike of you every time you help them to achieve something physically, because the power of unity naturally wears down the defences of the most resistant defences of the ego.

But I am still learning and their is a lot more learning left to do, because although I diffused the situation inside my mind, I still reacted to the different way I was treated.

Yet I should expect this, this should not surprise me and thus should not shake my mind even for a moment.

So walk with me as I take self-responsibility to investigate this point and learn to redesign myself to be able to be un-phased by any attempts to single me out in any scenario - because when you produce a message in this world that is not understood by the majority in the system still, then you have to be prepared for the response to the reactions your message can cause in others.